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libra
09-23-2008, 10:24 AM
Any of you moms delt with ADHD in young kids,Craig just turned 5 and he is a very big handful!!After a meeting with a counsalour at the place were he gets sp/occ.therapy she said we need to go ahead with the evaluation!But we do need to get this in control before he gets any older but man its tuff going thru this at such a young age! thanks lorip

coriander
09-23-2008, 01:49 PM
I don't personally have experience with ADHD, and I have to admit that I think it is WAAAYYY over diagnosed, but if your child truly has it, help is out there!

A close friend of mine has a daughter who was a nightmare to deal with. From a very early age, she was extremely difficult and exhibited irrational emotional outbursts. At the age of 7 she was struggling academically and had behavioral problems both at school and at home. Her behavior even caused a level of divisiveness between her parents and between her younger brother and the parents. Everything they tried (discipline, redirection/modification, counselors, etc.) never seemed to work. The daughter seemed to have little ability to self-discipline for even the simplest hygiene or behavioral habits.

A year ago, they switched counselors and the daughter was diagnosed with ADHD. They tried one medication that caused her to be obsessive and anxious, but they tried another and it has worked wonders!

The girl is now 9 or 10 and is doing well in school and at home. She still has some behavioral issues, but with the medication, she is able to identify the patterns and make adjustments on her own. She struggles, but her change really is amazing. She is a beautiful, happy, little girl who is active in sports and enjoys having friends... a HUGE change from little over a year ago.

Yes, it is very tough. I would say go for the evaluation - at least that. Sometimes the evaluation can simply point out trigger points and patterns that lead toward difficult behavior. You may not have to use medication.

It's a difficult decision to medicate at such a young age, but if you find a physician who works with you to not cover the problem with medication, rather, strengthen your child to help him make better choices about his behavior, it can be life saving!

I wish you all the best!!

mommaidwf
09-23-2008, 08:03 PM
Both of my boys have technically been diagnosed as ADHD, but I think in most cases it's a bunch of crap. Now, I'm not saying it doesn't exist or anything, but like coriander said it is WAY overdiagnosed. Too many teachers are trying to use medication as a cruch now because they can't control their class rooms. My oldest son is the only one that has ever had any medication for it. At the time, he had a teacher who just plain didn't discipline well at all. He is now not taking any, nor is my other son. When they have teachers that have clearly defined rules, enforce the rules AND enforce the discipline, my boys don't have problems. It's kinda like when kids push your buttons to see how far they can push. They know what they can and can't get away with. They don't do the things they know they are going to get punished for.

I would say go ahead with the evaluation if he is in school, because you can at least that way see what it is the teacher is having a problem with and you can work on those things at home and with a counsler if necessary. But to me, 5 years old is too young for meds. My pediatrician wouldn't even do anything until my oldest was 6 even though we were threatened to have him kicked out of preschool.

Dianacraftstoo
09-27-2008, 11:56 PM
Well I can only tell you I had raised one son with ADHD and it was horrible till I got help. He was not a good baby never slept over night and get up at night and get into things that was not safe. No matter what I did he would get up and find a way to things. So I when he was infant to preschool I was told he is just a boy and not to worry. When he got to school things only got worst. So we went to a specialist and he was tested then I felt sorry for not doing something sooner. He was tested and found out he was not able to able to focus on just one thing that he was dealing with 5 things at once. He has a very high IQ. So I choose to after alot of thought to try meds and BOY what a big difference that made for him. He was alot happier and could focus on one thing and complete it. My son is now 28 yr olds and a well minding, never been in any trouble and holds a great job. He is one of the most loving and caring people you would meet. So it is up to yoou what you decide but when he went on meds they told me if he was not ADHD the meds would do nothing and his behavior would stay the same. He was on meds from 5 yrs old to 17 yrs old when he decided he could control it on his own without meds. I wish you luck!
Our 10 yr old granddaughter has ADHD also. It does run in the family.
Sports are a big help for them. The one sport they said was good for kids with is is soccer. Our son started soccer when he was 5 and still plays till this day.

Diana

Deb
09-28-2008, 12:41 AM
When my daughter started kindergarten her teacher was always complaining about her behavior. We didn't like that teacher very much ,so, we dismissed her comments. I did go to parenting classes to try and find some ways to help our daughter. But when our daughter started first grade at a new school with a teacher we really liked and she loved and this teacher had many of the same concerns we started counseling. She was soon diagnosed with ADHD and medication was recommended. We didn't like the idea, so, we talked with her pediatrician. Her pediatrician was very helpful and we ended up putting our daughter on Ritalin. The medication along with the psychiatrist and her teachers at school helped our daughter become a better student and an easier child to deal with. Our oldest son was diagnosed with the same thing and was put on medication. There was much improvement with him also. Our youngest son has never had any problems. Our daughter is now 24 and our son is 19. They are no longer on medication and are doing quite well.

Go ahead with the evaluation and talk to your son's pediatrician and make an informed decision on your son's situation. Just remember that ADHD affects many aspects of your child's life including their education, friendships and the way they feel about themselves.

Deb

LuLu
09-28-2008, 07:43 AM
When my daughter started kindergarten her teacher was always complaining about her behavior. We didn't like that teacher very much ,so, we dismissed her comments. I did go to parenting classes to try and find some ways to help our daughter. But when our daughter started first grade at a new school with a teacher we really liked and she loved and this teacher had many of the same concerns we started counseling. She was soon diagnosed with ADHD and medication was recommended. We didn't like the idea, so, we talked with her pediatrician. Her pediatrician was very helpful and we ended up putting our daughter on Ritalin. The medication along with the psychiatrist and her teachers at school helped our daughter become a better student and an easier child to deal with. Our oldest son was diagnosed with the same thing and was put on medication. There was much improvement with him also. Our youngest son has never had any problems. Our daughter is now 24 and our son is 19. They are no longer on medication and are doing quite well.

Go ahead with the evaluation and talk to your son's pediatrician and make an informed decision on your son's situation. Just remember that ADHD affects many aspects of your child's life including their education, friendships and the way they feel about themselves.

Deb


Very well said! Good luck to you LoriP. I have got you in my prayers.

jujuann
09-29-2008, 12:04 AM
My ADHD son is now 34 and works hard at anything he does, but he still gets sidetracked at times. He was not put on meds until he was 15 and he did not like the way they made him feel, so he went off them at 17. He did get into some trouble as a youth, but learned by having to pay the price. He is very well respected by his employer and by the customers he deals with. He is making an excellent parent and does not want his son to follow in his pathway. We are lucky that his son is not ADHD.

My son was not evaluated until he was 15, so I say go for it. But as Cindy said, I think a lot of it is over rated. Another DGS has been diagonosed with ADD, but I've kept him and his brother a week at a time, and I don't see it at all. (I spent 16 yrs in the classroom). I think some of it is that some teachers do not want to make the extra effort in the classroom. Other teachers go out of their way to deal with each individual child and not expect them to be all cut from the same mold.

Good luck. Dealing with an ADHD child is not the easiest thing as a parent. One good thing is that they are usually more intelligent and learn things very quickly. A lot of them test in the almost brilliant catagory. My son did. The biggest problem with him was getting him to put it on paper and get it turned in, think homework!

Dianacraftstoo
09-30-2008, 06:24 PM
Deb and Judith you both said it very well and was like reading about our family. Nice to know u are not alone.

Diana

kray
10-02-2008, 03:03 AM
I tease my 43 year old husband he has ADHD....we will be talking about a subject, then he changes in midstream...also if a person is talking to him....he ends up overtalking that person.....talks non-stop.

Also, he has this thing with his hands that he shakes on his tummy or head....drives me crazy!

I asked his mom if he had ADHD when he was little....she said he was horrible...she finally had to put DH on meds when he started hurting his younger brother due to the hyperness.....he doesn't take the meds anymore...probably hasn't for 30 years...

Got off track here....

I would go ahead and get your son evaluated at school....if there is anything wrong...he can receive some special needs type of thing....

Also....a teacher makes such a big difference on kids....if they have a good teacher and willing to work w/ a child...that child can respond a lot more.

As for meds....it depends on the child and the situation.